In search of my blogging identity quest post #53 is my “Top Ten most Unforgettable Comments” spoken to me over the years. They have all formed a part of who I am today. Some still make me cringe while others chuckle. I cannot believe some of the things people have said on one hand and on the other, gratefulness fills my heart for the redemptive words:
#1 “You make Mrs. ____’s dogs nervous.” This was spoken to me by a childhood friend when she told me that an elderly lady I used to visit didn’t want me to come back again (names withheld). WOW! This should have been my first indicator that I was high-strung. I keep this comment around for sport. Whenever someone compares me to the Ever Ready Bunny, full of endless compulsive energy, I return with…”Did you know I also make people’s dogs nervous?”
#2 “If you don’t get an A on this paper, I’ll hang you up by your thumbs!” This is an all-time most memorable elementary school comment spoken by my third grade teacher. Is it any wonder I’m a compulsive perfectionist?
#3 “If your metabolism ever changes, you’ll weigh 2oo pounds.” There’s a real beauty regularly snarled from my obsess grandmother while she observed me raiding the pantry. It didn’t temper my eating habits. I just learned to hide it better.
#4 “I think you should join the school band!” I could barely hear this comment from my 6th grade teacher when he called me outside to talk to me. I was crying hysterically because I thought I was in trouble. What I finally heard was “I believe in you!” He is my favorite teacher of all times!
#5 “Your breasts would look better up here.” (Picture person’s hands lifting to appropriate spot) Can you believe this one? I won’t even grace this comment with a name attached, jerk! I eventually took care of this for my own reasons but thanks for the suggestion just the same (NOT!)
#6 “You’re going to be ok!” I heard this one from my first SANON hotline conversation. It was spoken by my soon-to-be angel of a sponsor, Mary. This comment kept me from going over the edge into insanity.
#7 “Striving for progress not perfection.” I heard this repeatedly for years while sitting in Twelve Step groups, talking to group members on the phone, and during those “crazies” when my sponsor would talk me down off the ledge.
#8 “Keep your powder dry!” My favorite Mom comment repeated whenever I feel caged, crazy, and crushed. Mom reminds me that I have what it takes to fight back. Her encouragement keeps the tears out of my amo.
#9 “It’s not either or but more or less.” This is my all-time favorite Dad comment. These words make me retreat from that black and white thinking that paralyzes me and instead move towards trying “a little more of what works.”
#10 “Trust in the Lord with all of your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.” Proverbs 3:5-6
I qualify this scripture as my top comment! If I had a nickel for every time it kept me from discouragement and despair when the way blurred, I would be a wealthy woman… well at least a whole lot better off financially. I often think I have figured out my path and then the deadend and right turn happens. I really need to trust in a “Higher Power.” -AA
So there you have them, my top ten comments. As far as my blogging identity quest, this post introduces an occasional diversion from my regular photography filled posts. I want to dare to write a little more honestly. I would also LOVE for my readers to leave some of their favorite comments spoken to them!